Worst-case movie blockbuster wedding scenarios. We look to the big screen for direction in how to avoid these situations, or at least deal with them in style!
1. The crisis: All the flowers have wilted.
Where we’ve seen it: American Pie: The Wedding (2003)
How to avoid it: ‘If it’s a hot day, have your wedding planner or a friend give the bouquets a spritz of water so they look fresh for the photos, and keep them out of direct sunlight,’ says Kelly Amundsen from Blush. ‘Sometimes it is inevitable that your flowers end up slightly bruised after they’ve been handled, so don’t be afraid to carefully pick off any not-so- perfect petals. Ask your florist to provide you with a few empty vases, or suitable packaging to place the bouquets in while you’re not using them to protect them.’
2. The crisis: The dress doesn’t fit.
Where we’ve seen it: Bride Wars (2009)
How to avoid it: Emily Brice from Emily Percy Gowns advises brides to have their final fitting about four days before they get married to allow time for any emergency alterations. ‘I had a bride who picked up her dress 10 days before, then lost six centimeters around her waist. She called at 10am on the day of the 3pm wedding and arrived here at 11am, speeding ticket and all! I managed to fix the dress, and drove it back to her by 2pm. Crisis averted, but her journey across town was not a happy memory.’
3. The crisis: Your fiancé wants to invite his ex-girlfriend to the wedding.
Where we’ve seen it: My Best Friend’s Wedding (1997)
How to deal with it: Whether you mind his ex attending the wedding or not, it’s important that you clearly communicate to your partner how you feel, so you can agree on a scenario you both are comfortable with. ‘A mature, balanced and honest approach will ultimately determine whether you have a win-win situation,’ says Professional Life Designer Sian Jaquet (sianjaquet.com). ‘Every situation is different. If you prefer the ex not to attend but are willing to compromise, you could say to your partner: “If it’s up to me, I wouldn’t invite her, but if it’s really important to you, why doesn’t she just come to the reception?”’
4. The crisis: It’s the big day – and you’ve just found out that your groom has one big hangover.
Where we’ve seen it: The Hangover (2009)
How to deal with it: After what can only be described as an epic stag do, Lisa Ferguson’s* groom turned up to their wedding with a patch over one eye – and a crutch. ‘I can’t say
I found it funny at the time, but 40 years on we have definitely had a few giggles about it. The most important thing was that we got through it on the day.’ Psychologist Laura Braid from the Sweet Life Sanctuary agrees: ‘Is it worth getting emotional and spoiling your mood, or are you better off calmly expressing that you are upset but want to focus on what is important – getting married and enjoying your big day?’ To avoid any hangover wedding debacles in the first place, it’s a good idea to organise the hen night and stag do for at least one week before the wedding. This will give everyone ample time to recover.
5.The crisis: It’s time to boogie, but the music is so lame that the dance floor is empty.
Where we’ve seen it: Wedding Crashers (1998)
How to avoid it:Discotech’s Stewart Hunt says a good DJ company will provide you with a playlist from which you can select songs. ‘When choosing the sounds, rate how popular they are, and whether they are appropriate for your guests. They could be of mixed ages, for example. And, if you’re still unsure about what to choose, leave it up to your DJ,’ says Hunt.
6. The crisis: It’s all about what the wedding planner wants – not you.
Where we’ve seen it: Father of the Bride (1991)
How to avoid it: ‘Like any supplier you choose, a wedding planner must suit your personality and be able to fit in with how you see your marriage being planned and coming together on the day,’ says Emma Newman of Emma Newman Weddings. ’It’s also important that they pay attention to detail, are efficient and don’t cause more stress by being stressed themselves! Above all, they need to enjoy what they do.’
7. The crisis: You name it, the weather is doing it – and it’s the night before your big day.
Where we’ve seen it: Forces of Nature (1999)
How to deal with it: If your dream day involves a marquee venue, Klavs Jorgensen of Intents Events says it’s important to consider the time of year you plan to tie the knot. ‘October to April is a good window to aim for. The location is also important – keep in mind that sites with spectacular views are often the ones that are most exposed to the natural elements. If the latter is the case, always have a Plan B in place. Be mindful of the placement of your marquee and its surroundings, including the site drainage, wind direction, mosquitoes and smells. And make sure your marquee can be easily closed off at any stage of the wedding in case the weather changes.’
We think that is enough scenarios to digest for one day! Tomorrow we will highlight seven more possible crisis situations, and how you can deal with them, so your day can be perfect in every way!