Planning: Gift registries

Gift giving is part and parcel of a wedding – here’s how to get exactly what you need

  • Story by Photo The Lauren and Delwyn Project

Gift giving is part and parcel of a wedding – here’s how to get exactly what you need.

Modern couples are tying the knot well into adulthood – the average age of a Kiwi bride is 27, and some couples have been married previously. For matrimonial matters such as receiving gifts many brides and grooms find they’ve already accumulated the toaster, blender and lamps well before they were engaged.
Wedding registries are a practical and polite way of guiding your guests in choosing a suitable gift for you
and your fiancé, ensuring you don’t receive double-ups, or anything that you already own. Today’s registries are unique to the store they represent – services not only include kitchen and lounge essentials, they extend to works of art and honeymoon funds.
The best way to start a registry is to talk to your chosen provider. Many stores and services have an existing system in place for wedding registries and will be able to advise you on each step of the process.
Although wedding gifting is much more relaxed these days, it’s still considered taboo to mention your gift list on your actual invitations. It’s a big etiquette no-no, and the same applies to emailing guests your registry info. It’s far more acceptable to include a separate card with the registry details inside your invitation’s envelope. Better yet, spread the word among family and guests when they ask, and let them pass it on word of mouth.

House and home
If you’ve had your eye on a new juicer, or a duvet cover with matching pillows for the master bedroom, add them to a list of what you need. Visit a few stores with your fiancé to decide on the style and cost of the items you’d like. The key is finding a store that suits your style and will have items within your price range.
For most registries, you’ll be given an account number that you can pass on to your guests. When they visit the store in person or online, they can view the list of what you’ve chosen but they won’t be able to see which guests have purchased which items.
Set up your registry a few months before the big day – leaving any more time than that means seasonal stock may change. Every so often, check your registry – if items have become unavailable you will need to add something else to your list instead. And remember to be realistic – it’s a fun process, but don’t become sidetracked. That glass lolly dish might look great in the store, but will you ever use it?

If you’d like your wedding celebration to help others around the world who might not be as fortunate, a charity donation can make the perfect wedding gift. Many not-for-profit organisations offer a service that allows your guests to make a donation in your name. It’s a generous gift that keeps on giving.

If you dream of honeymooning in Paris but your finances will only stretch to Pauanui, a travel registry is the perfect solution. Request guests make contributions to your travel fund by setting up an online registry, or ask them to contribute to your OE by setting up a bank account and giving the details to anyone who asks about your gift list.

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